Confidence vs Blatant Blindness
What’s the difference between confidence and blatant blindness?
Let me explain.
You know that moment when someone gives you advice on something they clearly have no business speaking on?
Not “working on it.” Not “improving.”
Just… completely disconnected from what they’re preaching.
And still talking like they’re certified.
For example—
Someone who has made zero effort toward their own weight suddenly becomes a live notification system for your body.
You gain a little weight? They notice.
They comment.
They advise.
Unsolicited. Immediate. Confident.
Like they’ve been silently appointed as your personal progress tracker.
Meanwhile, the global weighing scale community uses their photos in haunted houses.
And don’t get me wrong—this has nothing to do with weight. I’m not fatphobic.
I’m bullshitphobic.
I can’t tell the Prime Minister how to run a country—because I don’t know the first thing about running a country. Heck, I can barely run myself properly.
But apparently, this concept of knowing your place is rarer than common sense.
Wild thought: don’t speak like an authority in areas where you have zero knowledge or experience to show for.
And these people have the same energy everywhere else.
I’ve had people tell me I’m “not qualified” to have opinions on marriage or husbands because I’m single.
Right.
By that logic, we can’t claim poison is dangerous because none of us have been killed by it yet. Other people have died from it, but has it personally harmed me? No. Therefore, poison is good.
The fun part?
The rule doesn’t apply to them.
Older people without kids will advise mothers how to raise theirs, how to feed them, what to feed them, how to wash their ass.
Women who can break weighing scales just by breathing in its direction will point out when you gain weight and advise you on losing it.
Men—with no uterus—will give TED Talks on menstrual cycles and declare period pain “not normal.”
With all due respect, bring back the magic mirror of truth—Snow White’s realm doesn’t need it that much.
And when you point it out?
You’re rude. Disrespectful. “Today’s kids.”
My apologies for having better pattern recognition and logical arguments at 24 than you do at 45. Really. Deeply sorry.
So where does this confidence come from?
This ability to be completely disconnected from reality… and still speak like authority?
I’ve genuinely asked the universe this.
How do some cockroaches get to go through life thinking they’re the Lion King?
Turns out, there’s a name for it:
The Dunning–Kruger effect.
Such a fancy name for such an enraging phenomenon.
What it actually is
The Dunning–Kruger effect is a cognitive bias where people with low ability in a domain overestimate their competence.
Not because they’re secretly talented.
Not because they’re “manifesting confidence.”
But because:
👉 They lack the skill and the awareness to recognize that they lack the skill and the awareness.
It’s a double failure.
- If you’re bad at something, you’ll make mistakes
- If you’re aware, you’ll notice those mistakes and correct them
- But if you’re bad and unaware, you don’t even see the mistakes
So in your head?
You’re doing great.
In reality?
You’re confidently embarrassing yourself.
Here’s the kicker:
The more incompetent someone is, the more likely they are to:
- Overrate themselves
- Speak with certainty
- Dismiss correction
- Give unsolicited advice
Meanwhile, people who actually know what they’re doing?
They hesitate.
They qualify their statements.
They consider nuance.
They believe in using Google. A free tool, by the way.
The least qualified people are the loudest in the room.
Because real confidence?
It checks itself.
It has awareness.
It knows when to shut up.
Blatant blindness?
Loud. Immediate. Unfiltered.
Every thought becomes a public announcement.
And the truth is—
These people aren’t confident because they’re right.
They’re confident because no one has made fun of them to their face.
No correction.
No consequence.
Just years of people tolerating them.
So now they think they’re experts.
Do I want that level of confidence?
Absolutely not.
I don’t want to be loud and wrong.
I don’t want to be the person people tolerate in real time and roast later in private.
But I will take one thing:
The lack of hesitation.
Because while they’re out here confidently incorrect…
You’re out here fact-checking your own thoughts before speaking.
And that gap?
That’s where they win.
So no—I’m not becoming the cockroach that thinks it’s a lion.
But I’m also not staying quiet just because I know better.
Awareness without a voice is just… tolerance.
And I’m done tolerating noise in silence.
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